Do you wake up every day wanting to know that you are loved
by anyone and everyone in the world? Are you a person who wouldn’t want to go
to sleep nor wake up without your loved ones besides you? A person who is
always cheerful, fun-loving and cared? A person who always seeks attention like
a toddler from your parents, siblings and friends?
Well, pardon me, you are completely unaware that a whole new
world is waiting for you without ANY…yes you read it right…ANY of the above
said qualities! You better face it or face the wrath that it brings with the
self! And that’s the surreal and inevitable part of your life!!
I was everything of the above said flairs! A girl who just wouldn’t
budge to any of those specimens who try to take out the real ‘me’ out of the
self. Who would anyday prefer a true carefree life to a fake bonded life. Who is
always used to her family’s affection, love, care, warmth and what not!
Today, I write this, not to averse you to the world of ‘wedlock’.
But to warn you, very sternly warn you to better unpack all of your
expectations, cravings, desires, passions and urges of a wonderful ‘happily
ever after’ fairy tale life, for, holding to these, will relocate you to a
world full of disappointments, agony, frustration that you are not being able
to be your ‘true’ self and a dangerous feeling that you are not being cared, liked
and wanted!
No day used to pass without atleast a small gathering of the
entire family to laugh, eat, and make decisions and plans. Now, every day just
passes by in just a flick of a second, without anything being discussed and
laughed about. As I write this, I am completely unaware of what my better half
is upto nor is he of what I am penning down about. The saddest part is, even this
day shall pass away without the 2 of us sitting and discussing on why this
article was written J
To blame the marriage system for these unforeseen circumstances
would be a great err on my part. Today’s world demands that we work our brains
and energy out, to finally see those meagre numbers in our bank account at the
end of the month! In this fast-moving world, sitting and talking to each other
itself would be looked upon as hysterical, leave alone discussing your thicks
and thins!
Do you know what the harsh truth is? You cannot even have a discussion
on this with any of your pre-marriage bloods or friends! Needlessly triggering anxiety
in them is one thing; nobody would be in a better position to convince you,
other than the one who, you think, is solely responsible for all of these
sudden changes in you!
I would rather you not to come to a conclusion about my
lawfully accepted family, for they are among the rarest of rarest jewels! No
girl could ever think of such considerate and compassionate soulmate and
in-laws in her post-wedding life! The care showered is second only to the one
exhibited by parents and siblings!
Despite all of these, you feel desolate; you crave for your
mother, father and sibling; you wish you could still run to them and cry out
loud for making you travel on a long, unending and a bizarre journey, for no
fault of yours!
The only nearest way out of these risky emotions is - sit
and talk!! Talk to each other and solve your differences, do not assume! As a
famous novelist has rightly pointed out, “you do not remember your power-point presentations at the death bed. You only remember who came, made a difference and
never left”! Do not take life too seriously! After all, you have made a vow to
your life partner that you will standby each other no matter what! Stick to
that! Everything else can wait J
Cheers,
Sangeetha